Friday, September 28, 2007

Stephen's Observation on Black Women

I'm not writing a book on "bad" women. I'm writing a book that discusses the behaviors that many Black women display. Black men talk about these strange behaviors in secret, and rarely if ever challenge them on a large scale. My goal is to expose, discuss, and address these behaviors. I hope to let decent Black men everywhere know that even though they are commonly overlooked by their Sisters, to continue being real men, even though many Sisters reward the sellout/thug brothers. Many Sisters have a twisted value system that rewards thugs and labels good brothers as boring or predictable. That's sick. You said:

"thugs have shown a stronger presence than the good guys. Good guys need to step up to the plate and show women that they can be as daring, risk taking and forceful as the thugs and still remain a good guy, rather than being the laid-back, predictable type they are seen to be."

Let's examine that bizarre statement. Thugs show a stronger presence? So strength is possibly being a criminal, cheating on your woman, abusing your woman, or making babies without taking care of them? Crazy. So it's not enough that we're good men, don't cheat, and treat our woman like queens? We have to also be forceful daring risk takers? So I guess we should take up sky-diving now too? Why is the laundry list for what Black women "need" so long and demanding? Why is ours so short and flexible? It's impossible for a good Black man to be a "thug". Good Black men know that "thugs" aren't real men.
You also said:

"I know you have some women who seem never satisfied; always wanting more, but that craving they have for more could be to fill an emptiness that they feel. Brothers who come across such women need to equip themselves with the right tools needed to uproot that yearning and bring them to that level of fulfilment."

Ok. Let me get this straight, we have to be good guys (with a little thug in us) who are forceful daring risk takers that can step up to the plate in order to equip ourselves with the tools to uproot a Sister's yearning and bring them to their level of fulfilment?

That is the craziest thing I have ever heard. What is it that the Black woman will do? What is she responsible for? Anything? Why does she need us to do all of that for her? If she has issues like that, then she needs to go see a psychologist immediately.

I do feel that the majority of Sisters suffer from ABS (Angry Blackwomen syndrome), in addition to problems of self esteem. But as Black men, we are told that everything wrong with them is our fault.



Thursday, September 27, 2007

“You know what your problem is?”

Great article Josiah. Remember this article the next time a Sister asks you what's wrong with you. Finding a good Black woman is one of the hardest things a Brother will ever do!


I've been thinking about this for 10 years.

What’s so bad about being single?
By Michael Kramer

“You know what your problem is?”

Who doesn’t love a conversation that starts like that? But if you’re over 35 and single, people somehow think it’s an open invitation to diagnose why you’re still single. “You don’t have room in your life for a woman.” “You’re too picky.” “You’re not picky enough.” (Sadly, I’ve dated a few women who have elicited that response from my friends.) The very term “singles” practically sounds like a disease (oh, wait, that’s “shingles”), and for those diagnosing us, being single seems to be our defining characteristic.

As the last of my peer group to remain single, I’ve noticed that friends, colleagues, family members, even shop owners, are quick to diagnose me. I bought new eyeglasses recently and the salesman asked my female friend whether we were a couple.

“No, we’re just friends,” she said.

“Good,” he said, “because based on how long it takes him to decide on a pair of glasses, if you’re waiting for a proposal, you’re gonna wait forever.” As if choosing eyewear were somehow related to choosing a spouse.

Is there something wrong with being single?
But comments like these, repeated over and over through the years, made me start to doubt myself. Maybe something was wrong with me. Maybe I did have the dreaded singles disease. After all, people never give flattering reasons for why you’re still single. The diagnosis is never, “You’re too good-looking” or “If only you were less smart.” It’s always something negative. “You don’t know what you want in a woman.” “You’re looking for a woman who doesn’t exist.” If everybody’s saying these things, after a while you start thinking maybe they’re right.

It got to the point where even I started to wonder why I was still single. So I decided to put my fate in the hands of my happily married friends, Andy and Lisa. (Names have been changed to protect the guilty.) I agreed to let them set me up.

Andy and Lisa wanted to double date, so the four of us went to dinner. It turns out that the woman they set me up with had started a new job that day, and she joked — three times, so I sensed it was more than a joke — that she’s just not cut out for work, and she really just wants to marry a rich guy. That’s a nice thing to hear on a first date, because that’s exactly what guys are looking for in a woman. It’s the equivalent of a man telling a first date that he’s considering quitting his job to devote more time to chewing tobacco.

Then poker came up in conversation, and my date said she loves to gamble, but she’s having a bad year. “How so?” I asked. She said she’s down $19,000. Nineteen. Thousand. Dollars! I thought, Wow, so you don’t want to work AND you’ve got a gambling problem? You’re quite the catch.

After the date, Andy pulled me aside and excitedly asked, “So… what do you think?” Not wanting to be insulting, I said I thought she was nice, but not quite my type. To which Andy replied, “You know what your problem is? You don’t want to be happy.”

Now, wait a minute! I may not know myself perfectly, but I do know that an unambitious gambler is not my road to happiness. And that’s when I came to my senses and realized that the so-called “experts” who were diagnosing me didn’t know any more than I did. Being single isn’t a disease, yet so many married people think they’re Jonas Salk with the miracle cure. But with over 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, maybe single people should be diagnosing married people.

What single people need to remember
The fact is, we all go through life on our own timetable. I know many people who found their true love a little later in life. It wasn’t because they were crazy or afraid to commit or told too many corny jokes on dates or any of that stuff. It was because they found their true love a little later in life.

I have a well-meaning cousin who, upon hearing I wasn’t dating anyone, sighed and said, “There’s gotta be somebody out there for you.” She used the exact same tone that Dr. Frankenstein would have used if he were lamenting that his monster was still single. I told her, “It’s not like I’ve never been loved!” But then I realized that I didn’t need to get defensive. I mean, even Frankenstein’s monster found his soul mate, and I’m not sure he even had a soul. I have to believe I’m a better catch than he is. Just imagine what people must have said about him before he found his lovely bride. But did he listen? No. Ol’ Frankie’s monster just kept trudging along, with the bolts in his neck and his flat head held high. And until the rest of us find our soul mate, so should we.

Michael Kramer is an Emmy-nominated television writer living in Los Angeles. He is single, looking and, he likes to think, “well-adjusted.”

Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Thanks Leatha!

George Bush Riddle

On his trip to Great Britain, George Bush had a meeting with Queen Elizabeth. He asked her, "How does one manage to run a country so smoothly?"
"That's easy," she replied, "You surround yourself with intellgent ministers and advisors."
"But how can I tell whether they are intelligent or not?" he inquired.
"You ask them a riddle," she replied, and with that she pressed a button and said, "Would you please send Tony Blair in."
When Blair arrived, the Queen said, "I have a riddle for you to answer for me. Your parents had a child and it was not your sister and it was not your brother. Who was this child ?"
Blair replied, "That's easy. The child was me."
"Very good," said the Queen, "You may go, now."
So President Bush went back to Washington and called in his chief of staff, Karl Rove. He said to him, "I have a riddle for you, and the answer is very important. Your parents had a child and it was not your sister and it was not your brother. Who was this child ?"
Rove replied, "Yes, it is clearly very important that we determine the answer, as no child must be left behind. Can I deliberate on this for awhile?"
"Yes," said Bush, "I'll give you four hours to come up with the answer."
So Rove went and called a meeting of the White House Staff, and asked them the riddle. But after much discussion and many suggestions, none of them had a satisfactory answer. So he was quite upset, not knowing what he would tell the President.
As Rove was walking back to the Oval Office, he saw former Secretary of State Colin Powell approaching him. So he said, "Mr.
Secretary, can you answer this riddle for me. Your parents had a child and it was not your sister and it was not your brother. Who was the child?"
"That's easy," said Powell, "The child was me."
"Oh thank you," said Rove, "You may just have saved me my job!"
So Rove went in to the Oval Office and said to President Bush, "I think I know the answer to your riddle. The child was Colin Powell!"
"No, you idiot!" shouted Bush, "The child was Tony Blair."

Walt Bruhl
“Laissez les bons temps rouler”

Friday, September 21, 2007

What's good for the goose (He's just a Hater)....

Stephen B. Yes, Roland is my guy!!!!!!! And as Mr. Neil Steinberg stated in the initial paragraph " that merit rules and we now live in a colorblind society where the lion cuddles the lamb, I would be proclaimed an idiot and rightly so."
And he sounds like an idiot......... Cheech...

Laws of morality
By eliminating rights that challenge belief systems, soon we won't have any

September 21, 2007
BY NEIL STEINBERG Sun-Times Columnist

Were I to seize upon an example of African-American success -- say someone earning a Ph.D., or being named CEO, or one of countless instances happening every minute -- and claim it shows that racism is dead, that merit rules and we now live in a colorblind society where the lion cuddles the lamb, I would be proclaimed an idiot and rightly so.
So how is it that the exact opposite can occur unquestioned? How is it that any random act of possible racism, anywhere in the nation, is grabbed and held aloft by what passes for black leadership? That they are able to take any ugly incident that catches their scattered attention and pronounce it deeply significant proof that we are a nation of haters sorely in need of the redemption they are selling? That they could urge thousands of credulous followers to rush en masse to a rural backwater like Jena, La., population zero, and conflate a schoolyard mishap into a matter of national import? How can it be possible that a local laughingstock like Roland Martin can sit on CNN and condemn real reporters in the media for fixating on trivialities such as the war and health care while ignoring the earthquake in Jena?

Whenever some bigot refers to Jewish leadership, I laugh, because there are no Jewish leaders -- it would be like herding cats. Similarly, I don't pretend that the Jesse Jacksons and Al Sharptons of the world actually represent the complex reality of black America today. I don't pretend that. But they sure do. They may even believe it.

Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Nita, Help the Brother Out..............

This past weekend I hung out with my childhood buddy Sister and Friend-- Anita and her guy Bear. For those of you living in Chicago, this time of year, if you suffer with Allergies, Asthma or Sinus…. it’s horrible!!!!!!!. While sitting at the table talking with the both of them, I noticed he had this uncontrollable cough and had to get his inhaler. Of course-- I’m just an old mother hen when I see Asthma suffereres, because my brother suffered so with this illness and also died from it. I recall reading an article in Alternative Medicine Magazine and it listed 7 ways you can fight Asthma. So Bear my dear, this is for you:

1. Medicinal Mushrooms- An extract form mushrooms called AHCC (active hexose correlated compound) Can actually help the immune system do a better job if you take 500 to 4,500 mg. per day, depending on the severity of the disease.
2. Boswellia(Boswellia Serrata-The gummy resin from the bark of the boswellia tree, which grows in India, North Africa, and the Middle East, inhibits inflammatory compound that lead to acute asthma attacks take about 300mg
3. Butterbur( Petasite Hybridus)- Recent research show that butterbur soothes airway spasms, one study found that more than 40 percent of butter bur users could take less asthma medication and still keep symptoms under control. Take 50 to 100mg.
4. Picrohiza( Picrorhiza Kurroa) This ayurvedic herb counteracts inflamed and restricted airways. Take 400 to 1,500 mg a day.
5. Pycnogenol- It’s a powerful antioxidant and also a strong anti-inflammatory. Take 30 to 60 mg
6. Vitamin C People with asthma can reduce the reliance on inhaled corticosteroids by taking 1,000 mg of vitamin C daily.
7. Vitamin Low levels of vitamin D are the culprit in asthma… Go figure…..

So there you go Mr. Bear! Now Nita go and take Care of that man..

Monday, September 17, 2007

"America's High Tech "Invisible Man"

Do you know this man? Please read below...

Thanks Leatha!

By Tyrone D. Taborn

You may not have heard of Dr. Mark Dean. And you aren't alone. But almost everything in your life has been affected by his work.

See, Dr. Mark Dean is a Ph.D. from Stanford University. He is in the National Hall of Inventors. He has more than 30 patents pending. He is a vice president with IBM. Oh, yeah. And he is also the architect of the modern-day personal computer. Dr. Dean holds three of the original nine patents on the computer that all PCs are based upon. And, Dr. Mark Dean is an African American.

So how is! it that we can celebrate the 20th anniversary of the IBM personal computer without reading or hearing a single word about him? Given all of the pressure mass media are under about negative portrayals of African Americans on television and in print, you would think it
would be a slam dunk to highlight someone like Dr. Dean.

Somehow, though, we have managed to miss the shot. History is cruel when it comes to telling the stories of African Americans. Dr. Dean isn't the first Black inventor to be overlooked Consider John Stanard, inventor of the refrigerator, George Sampson, creator of the clothes dryer,
Alexander Miles and his elevator, Lewis Latimer and the electric lamp.
All of these inventors share two things:

One, they changed the landscape of our society; and, two, society relegated them to the footnotes of history. Hopefully, Dr. Mark Dean won't go away as quietly as they did. He certainly shouldn't. Dr. Dean helped start a Digital Revolution that created people like Microsoft's Bill Gates and Dell Computer's Michael Dell. Millions of jobs in information technology can be traced back directly to ! Dr. Dean.

More important, stories like Dr. Mark Dean's should serve as inspiration for African-American children. Already victims of the "Digital Divide" and failing school systems, young, Black kids might embrace technology with more enthusiasm! if they knew someone like Dr. Dean already was leading the way.

Although technically Dr. Dean can't be credited with creating the computer -- that is left to Alan Turing, a pioneering 20th-century English mathematician, widely considered to be the father of modern computer science -- Dr. Dean rightly deserves to take a bow for the machine we use today. The computer really wasn't practical for home or small business use until he came along, leading a team that developed the interio! r architecture (ISA systems! bus) that enables multiple devices, such as modems and printers, to be connected to personal computers.

In other words, because of Dr. Dean, the PC became a part of our daily lives . For most of us, changing the face of society would have been enough. But not for Dr. Dean.. Still in his early forties, he has! a lot of inventing left in him.

He recently made history again by leading the design team responsible for creating the first 1-gigahertz processor chip.. It's just another huge step in making computers faster and smaller. As the world congratulates itself for the new Digital Age brought on by the personal computer, we need to guarantee that the African-American story is part of the hoopla surrounding the most stunning technological advance the world has ever seen.. We cannot afford to let Dr. Mark Dean become a footnote in history. He is well worth his own history book.


Megan Williams and her Attackers

Carmen Williams, Megan's Mother

Lu said...

This is really sad. They need to go to jail for life. How can you be full of so much hatred? Everyone please pray for that family and pray that justice is served.

September 14, 2007 5:11 PM

Thursday, September 13, 2007

The Family of A Young Black Women Raped, Beaten, and Tortured

This Article was Copied From MSN:

The family of a young black woman who police said was raped, beaten and tortured by six people in Logan County is calling on law enforcement to file hate crimes charges against the suspects, all of whom are white. During a press conference Thursday at Charleston Area Medical Center's General Hospital, the family of 20-year-old Megan Williams asked the Logan County Prosecuting Attorney to pursue hate crimes charges. According to court records, Williams was stabbed, sexually assaulted, beaten and choked. Police said one of the suspects cut her and said “that’s what we do to niggers around here.” "If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, acts like a duck and walks like a duck, it has to be a duck," said Rev. Emanuel Heyliger, who represented the family during the press conference. He said if Logan County officials don't file hate crimes charges, federal government officials should intervene. The six suspects charged with raping and torturing Williams are schedulaed to be in court early next week. Frankie and Bobby Brewster, Danny Combs, George Messer, Karen Burton and Alisha Burton have all been charged in connection with the incident. Comb's hearing is on Tuesday while the other suspects are expected to be in court on Monday. U.S. Attorney Charles Miller announced Wednesday that his office will not seek federal charges in the case. "Because of the serious nature of the pending charges in Logan County, both in the factual allegations and in the potential penalties if the defendants are convicted, we have and will continue to work closely with local authorities," Miller said in a release. "At this time, we believe it is appropriate to defer to the Logan County Prosecutor in pursuing the state charges against the defendants.' Logan County Prosecutor Brian Abraham said Wednesday he was looking into hate crimes charges. "There is no doubt, from what I've seen, that race was a contributing factor," said Abraham. "Whether it was the sole motivating factor or a motivating factor, I want to wait until we get all the evidence in to this office before I make that determination." Williams' mother said Tuesday the family is trying to cope. The victim was still recovering at CAMC and family members said she was doing well. "I know the Lord will somehow bring us through this, but you know, it's just devastating," said Carmen Williams. A spokesperson for Capital High School, where Megan Williams was a student, said she was in special needs classes. Deputies said they received a tip Saturday that a woman was being held against her will at the Brewster residence in the Big Creek area of Logan County, according to a release from the Logan County Sheriff's Department. When police arrived, Frankie Brewster was sitting on the front porch. She told the officer that she was alone, the release said. As she was speaking with the officer, Brewster got up and started walking toward the door. That's when police say the victim "limped toward the door with her arms held out saying 'help me,'" the release said. They found the Megan Williams inside the home with stab wounds to her legs and bruised eyes, the release said. Deputies said she'd also been sexually assaulted. Family members say the nightmare began at least a week earlier. "She has a history of kinda drifting off every once in a while so I just thought she was running around town like she usually does," said Carmen Williams Authorities say Megan was being held hostage by 24-year-old Bobby Brewster and his mother, 49-year-old Frankie Brewster. Police say the Brewsters, as well as four other suspects, tortured Megan Williams for days by severely beating, stabbing and raping her. Police say they forced her to perform sex acts on multiple people. She was even made to lick up blood as well as rat and dog feces, according to court documents. "I was shocked. I really can't understand how anybody could do anyone like that," Williams said. The criminal complaint shows the group threatened to kill Megan if she left and shouted racial slurs at her during the abuse. Carmen Williams said she thinks race did play a part in the ordeal, but now she is just focusing on her daughter's recovery and hoping others can learn from their story. "I want other parents and other mothers to realize that there are people out there like that. To keep a closer eye on their children," she said. "You never think it'll happen to your child but obviously I never thought, but here we are." The victim's most severe injuries include a fractured arm and a deep stab wound on her leg. Deputies are still trying to determine just how long Megan Williams was held against her will. They say it could have been a week or longer. "I mean, I've been in law enforcement for over 30 years, and this is probably the most horrendous thing that I've ever seen or ever encountered," said Logan County Sheriff Eddie Hunter. They face a slew of charges including kidnapping, sexual assault and malicious wounding. Karen Burton – charged with malicious wounding, battery, assault during the commission of a felony. According to a criminal complaint filed in Logan County, she pulled the victim’s hair, choked the victim, cut her ankles and told her “that’s what we do to niggers around here.” Bobby R. Brewster – charged with kidnapping, first-degree sexual assault, malicious wounding, assault during commission of a felony. According to the criminal complaint, Brewster forced to victim to have sex with him, threatened to kill her, stabbed the victim and forced her to eat rat and dog feces and drink from a toilet bowl. Danny J Combs – charged with first-degree sexual assault and malicious wounding. According to the criminal complaint, he forced the victim to have sex with him at knife point. Frankie Lee Brewster - charged with giving false information, second-degree sexual assault, kidnapping, malicious wounding. According to the criminal complaint, Brewster forced the victim to have oral sex with her, threatened to kill the victim and withheld information from police when they arrived at her residence to investigate a missing person report. Alisha Burton - charged with assault during the commission of a felony, battery. According to the criminal complaint, Burton beat and choked the victim. The suspects had lengthy criminal records In 1994, Frankie Brewster was indicted on first degree murder charges, but pleaded guilty to voluntary manslaughter in the shooting death of an 84-year old woman. In March of this year, her son Bobby Brewster, was charged with brandishing a deadly weapon. Last year he was charged with battery on a police officer. Combs' criminal history includes a malicious wounding charge in 2006. Messer has several domestic violence charges, including second offense domestic assault and burglary. Karen Burton and her daughter Alisha have also been arrested on numerous occasions. Karen Burton has been charged with assault on a police officer. Her daughter was charged with domestic assault in May.

Monday, September 10, 2007

Lou Lou

Each month will feature a Single Christian Sister. If interested ,click on comments and talk with Lou.. Awesome women of God....

Tuesday, September 4, 2007

Miss Beatrice

Miss Beatrice, the church organist, was in her eighties and had never been
She was admired for her sweetness and kindness to all.
One afternoon the pastor came to call on her and she showed him into her
quaint sitting room.
She invited him to have a seat while she prepared tea.
As he sat facing her old Hammond organ, the young minister noticed a
CUT -glass bowl sitting on top of it.
The bowl was filled with water, and in the water floated, of all things, a

When she returned with tea and scones, they began to chat.

The pastor tried to stifle his curiosity about the bowl of water and its
strange floater, but soon it got the better of him and he could no longer
"Miss Beatrice", he said, "I wonder if you would tell me about this?"
pointing to the bowl.
"Oh, yes," she replied, "Isn't it wonderful? I was walking through the
Park a few months ago and I found this little package on the ground.
The directions said to place it on the organ,
keep it wet and that it would prevent the spread of disease.
Do you know I haven't had the flu all winter."

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